I was so extremely nervous to meet guy #1 today, and I am convinced that it was because of my date from hell with Tad. I felt like my heart was going to jump out of my chest all morning.
I arrived at Sol Mexican Cocina before he did, so I sat outside on the patio watching the corner knowing that any second he would be turning it. Person after person and finally... a good-looking man that looked EXACTLY like his picture!! He was at least the same height as me, and I was wearing heels, so I think I can live with that.
I was so nervous that I didn't even care about eating. I looked at the menu just because we said we should, but really I cant tell you one thing that I saw on it. I was completely somewhere else. So he ordered for the both of us. I couldn't believe how nervous I was! I couldn't even get it under control.
I blame that on Tad.
He was definitely a Scottsdale guy. He made sure I knew about his fancy office, and super tall and beautiful ex-wives. Yes, again there are 2 ex-wives. At lease I knew that going into this one though.
One ex-wife is a gorgeous Puerto Rican women who has been a school principal since the age of 25...who unfortunately was away in Puerto Rico getting married as we spoke (I kind of got the unfortunate vibe from him).
He is crazy about the Detroit Tigers, and isn't from Michigan, but I am, so that was cool.
It was kind of average for a first date. Except for I was so nervous that I couldn't eat or talk. I felt like an idiot when I tried to speak. I just worked myself up way too much. I was still hungry when I got back to work because I didn't eat anything.
Then about 1 hour after getting back, he text me and asked for a second date:) Playing cool I said "sure."
Then he text me back and said "Great! But only if you really truly want to.."
What did he want me to say? "Yes! Of course! I am the luckiest girl in the world!!"
That seemed a little narcissistic. And I'm a pro at spotting narcissists.
But, I said "I do."
Tuesday, October 29, 2013
Sunday, October 27, 2013
Match.com no more..
Well today is a new day. Yesterday was too, but I still felt dirty and a little nauseas from being in the company of Tiny Tad, the junkyard man just one night before.
Before Tad, I had been talking to Guy #1, if you remember, but I became so encompassed by answering Tad's super texts and they were stealing all my "free time" that I been using to bulldoze through the match.com emails.
Well, I emailed back Guy #1 and after I turned down requests to "meet up for a drink,"we ended up agreeing to meet for lunch Tuesday at the Quarter. I am too afraid to meet another guy at night, and I am a single Mom with one kid 100% of the time, meeting up for a drink is not even if my dictionary. And a lunch date is perfect, it comes with a failsafe, only one hour for lunch.
But yesterday I cancelled my match.com subscription! I can't handle that s**t. It's just too much. Hundreds of emails daily, and liars like Tad...? (Shivers)
There is this guy that I know, he is a great friend, I look up to him, and he will be getting married to a girl that he met on eHarmony. So, because he is a mentor of mine, I decided to follow in his footsteps and try eHarmony myself. I am a little hesitant because of the price, but as of now I am "communicating for free" to get a feel first.
Last night I had two friends tell me about an app called Tinder. I may download it. I really hope my blogs help someone out there who is in a similar position as I am. I feel like I have a duty now. My duty is to pave the way for hot single moms everywhere! It's scary being a hot single mom with a full time job and career that is blossoming. There is no time at all, you have major priorities, and you don't want just anyone to meet your kids. They have to be worthy of them, and trust me, it's much easier to assume nobody will ever be good enough, and accept that you are better off not dating because you have everything you need already. And that's the truth, I don't need a boyfriend, or a husband. I have my babies and they are all I need.
Before Tad, I had been talking to Guy #1, if you remember, but I became so encompassed by answering Tad's super texts and they were stealing all my "free time" that I been using to bulldoze through the match.com emails.
Well, I emailed back Guy #1 and after I turned down requests to "meet up for a drink,"we ended up agreeing to meet for lunch Tuesday at the Quarter. I am too afraid to meet another guy at night, and I am a single Mom with one kid 100% of the time, meeting up for a drink is not even if my dictionary. And a lunch date is perfect, it comes with a failsafe, only one hour for lunch.
But yesterday I cancelled my match.com subscription! I can't handle that s**t. It's just too much. Hundreds of emails daily, and liars like Tad...? (Shivers)
There is this guy that I know, he is a great friend, I look up to him, and he will be getting married to a girl that he met on eHarmony. So, because he is a mentor of mine, I decided to follow in his footsteps and try eHarmony myself. I am a little hesitant because of the price, but as of now I am "communicating for free" to get a feel first.
Last night I had two friends tell me about an app called Tinder. I may download it. I really hope my blogs help someone out there who is in a similar position as I am. I feel like I have a duty now. My duty is to pave the way for hot single moms everywhere! It's scary being a hot single mom with a full time job and career that is blossoming. There is no time at all, you have major priorities, and you don't want just anyone to meet your kids. They have to be worthy of them, and trust me, it's much easier to assume nobody will ever be good enough, and accept that you are better off not dating because you have everything you need already. And that's the truth, I don't need a boyfriend, or a husband. I have my babies and they are all I need.
Saturday, October 26, 2013
At least he didn't kill me...
Where do I even start? I am so grossed out by guy #2. I'm not going to call him by his real name, but it sounds almost exactly like the name "Tad" and I hate it just as bad, so that his name now...Tad.
The nightmare actually started before the date. I text him after work and told him I was going to take a nap before I started getting ready. I did. However, I woke up to him calling me about an hour later. I didn't answer. He called me back immediately. So I answer with an obvious "I'm sleeping" tone in my voice, and he replies...
"Hey you, are you sleeping?"
"Yea, I was taking a NAP"
"I'm sorry sweetie, but it's 5 o'clock. I just wanted to make sure you didn't over-sleep."
WTF dude, I am a big girl with an alarm clock. I've made it through my entire life without wakeup calls from you.. Moving on, I get ready and head out meet him at The House of Brasserie, (the restaurant was the only good part).
He calls me as I'm looking for parking and says "I see you!" I get out and walk up to him and he is AT LEAST 3 INCHES SHORTER THAN ME. He lied!! Right off the bat, he lied about his height!! So I'm kind of irritated but I head to the table with him where there is a dozen roses sitting on my seat, and get this... a queen of hearts playing card with writing on it that reads "Our First Date 10/25/2013." Shut the front door.
As we sit he tells me that the florist was sooo jealous that he was getting me roses for our first date.
Like roses aren't the most common thing ever... He also told me that the chick that took his reservation, for the restaurant, was jealous too! What? people make reservations for dates like every day!!
Remember I said he owns an antique shop?? Well, what he really meant to say was that he owns a junk yard of old car parts that he sells and trades on ebay.
He asked about my past relationships and I told him about my daughter's dad, but I didn't want to talk about the other one because it puts me in a bad mood. So, he tells me not to worry because he has these sugar skull tattoos on his arms and they (and he's screaming this while raising his arms in the air...) "will WARD OFF EVIL SPIRITS!!"
Whoa, did this dude really just do that? YES he did. He had told me on the phone that he was a Christian.. And the Jesus tattoo he told me about was just a crucifix with a halo over it.
Now for his crazy ex-wives. (oh yeah, because you're not crazy or anything.. and BTW, he only mentioned one ex-wife on the phone). He explains that one ex wife was "So stupid. She took me to court for child support and left owing ME MONEY!" Then he starts to laugh and with his stubby fingers, he creates a zero and yells "I make a BIG. FAT. ZERO!"
OMG, this dude was nuts. (And poor).
In the meantime my girlfriend text me asking how he was and how the date was going.
As I'm texting her back, Tad starts asking me who is texting me and what I'm saying.
What I replied was, "I'm okay, he is possessive already though, it's scary" and she texts back "Run!" I tell him that I told her that everything was good. But he proceeds to lean over the table to peek at my phone! So, I turn my phone away and put it down.
About 2 minutes later, after he asked me what we were going to do tomorrow, I got up and went to the bathroom to tell my friend that he was a nut and I was going to leave. BUT, I forgot that I had laid my phone down and didn't put it in my purse. ):
I got back to the table, I picked up my phone, and told him that I was ready to go. He asked me if he could come spent the night because he had a few to drink (I knew better not to). I told him "Absolutely not! My house is my sanctuary for me and my kids and nobody comes over." He screams "I'LL SLEEP ON THE FLOOR!" Holy cow balls.
He pays the bill, walks me to my out and I get in my car completely avoiding any contact with him (as to not leave any room for him to wonder if he was getting a kiss, or a hug, or an I'll call you later... or anything). I take off and head home making sure he wasn't behind me. I go to sleep. I woke up around 6 o'clock and I see that he had text me 5 times, and this is what they say..
"I read your phone!"
"I saw what you told your friend!"
"Thanks for making me waste $200 on you!!"
"You're ugly and a liar like the rest"
"Bye!!"
Thank you match.com. I'm speechless.
I can only pray that he truly meant what he said when he said "Bye!!"
Now off to Costco to have a normal day, and do normal things, to try and feel normal again.
The nightmare actually started before the date. I text him after work and told him I was going to take a nap before I started getting ready. I did. However, I woke up to him calling me about an hour later. I didn't answer. He called me back immediately. So I answer with an obvious "I'm sleeping" tone in my voice, and he replies...
"Hey you, are you sleeping?"
"Yea, I was taking a NAP"
"I'm sorry sweetie, but it's 5 o'clock. I just wanted to make sure you didn't over-sleep."
WTF dude, I am a big girl with an alarm clock. I've made it through my entire life without wakeup calls from you.. Moving on, I get ready and head out meet him at The House of Brasserie, (the restaurant was the only good part).
He calls me as I'm looking for parking and says "I see you!" I get out and walk up to him and he is AT LEAST 3 INCHES SHORTER THAN ME. He lied!! Right off the bat, he lied about his height!! So I'm kind of irritated but I head to the table with him where there is a dozen roses sitting on my seat, and get this... a queen of hearts playing card with writing on it that reads "Our First Date 10/25/2013." Shut the front door.
As we sit he tells me that the florist was sooo jealous that he was getting me roses for our first date.
Like roses aren't the most common thing ever... He also told me that the chick that took his reservation, for the restaurant, was jealous too! What? people make reservations for dates like every day!!
Remember I said he owns an antique shop?? Well, what he really meant to say was that he owns a junk yard of old car parts that he sells and trades on ebay.
He asked about my past relationships and I told him about my daughter's dad, but I didn't want to talk about the other one because it puts me in a bad mood. So, he tells me not to worry because he has these sugar skull tattoos on his arms and they (and he's screaming this while raising his arms in the air...) "will WARD OFF EVIL SPIRITS!!"
Whoa, did this dude really just do that? YES he did. He had told me on the phone that he was a Christian.. And the Jesus tattoo he told me about was just a crucifix with a halo over it.
Now for his crazy ex-wives. (oh yeah, because you're not crazy or anything.. and BTW, he only mentioned one ex-wife on the phone). He explains that one ex wife was "So stupid. She took me to court for child support and left owing ME MONEY!" Then he starts to laugh and with his stubby fingers, he creates a zero and yells "I make a BIG. FAT. ZERO!"
OMG, this dude was nuts. (And poor).
In the meantime my girlfriend text me asking how he was and how the date was going.
As I'm texting her back, Tad starts asking me who is texting me and what I'm saying.
What I replied was, "I'm okay, he is possessive already though, it's scary" and she texts back "Run!" I tell him that I told her that everything was good. But he proceeds to lean over the table to peek at my phone! So, I turn my phone away and put it down.
About 2 minutes later, after he asked me what we were going to do tomorrow, I got up and went to the bathroom to tell my friend that he was a nut and I was going to leave. BUT, I forgot that I had laid my phone down and didn't put it in my purse. ):
I got back to the table, I picked up my phone, and told him that I was ready to go. He asked me if he could come spent the night because he had a few to drink (I knew better not to). I told him "Absolutely not! My house is my sanctuary for me and my kids and nobody comes over." He screams "I'LL SLEEP ON THE FLOOR!" Holy cow balls.
He pays the bill, walks me to my out and I get in my car completely avoiding any contact with him (as to not leave any room for him to wonder if he was getting a kiss, or a hug, or an I'll call you later... or anything). I take off and head home making sure he wasn't behind me. I go to sleep. I woke up around 6 o'clock and I see that he had text me 5 times, and this is what they say..
"I read your phone!"
"I saw what you told your friend!"
"Thanks for making me waste $200 on you!!"
"You're ugly and a liar like the rest"
"Bye!!"
Thank you match.com. I'm speechless.
I can only pray that he truly meant what he said when he said "Bye!!"
Now off to Costco to have a normal day, and do normal things, to try and feel normal again.
Date was a NIGHTMARE..
I am too traumatized to even blog about it, so you will all have to wait until tomorrow. But man wise, I am only going to be thinking about this guy tonight..
Thursday, October 24, 2013
Anything is possible....right?
So that's what I have heard anyway but my gut tells me that's not the case here. Guy #2 has sent me texts all day today (while I'm working) and here are a few...
"I've been waiting 39 years, and you're finally here."
"Hey, hun. I have you told your friends about me?"
(little does he know I'm blogging it on the web.. ha!)
"I can't stop smiling and day dreaming about you. I went to the gym today and the lady asked me if I won the lottery and I told her YES! :))"
And that's just 3 out of the 17 texts I got just today from him.
Okay, I know I haven't dated in 7 years but I also know this isn't normal. He hasn't even met me yet! It's been 3 days!
Date is tomorrow. I'm keeping it close to home and driving myself, for sure.
"I've been waiting 39 years, and you're finally here."
"Hey, hun. I have you told your friends about me?"
(little does he know I'm blogging it on the web.. ha!)
"I can't stop smiling and day dreaming about you. I went to the gym today and the lady asked me if I won the lottery and I told her YES! :))"
And that's just 3 out of the 17 texts I got just today from him.
Okay, I know I haven't dated in 7 years but I also know this isn't normal. He hasn't even met me yet! It's been 3 days!
Date is tomorrow. I'm keeping it close to home and driving myself, for sure.
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
do we have a potential Stage 5 Clinger?????
I spoke with guy #2. I am sorry to say that his voice was less than I had hoped for. It was too soft. Maybe he was just nervous and I should just give him the benefit of the doubt. But I am in search of the perfect guy for me, and that guy has a deep voice. Anywho, he is extremely excited to take me out. I guess I am too. He just seems a little clingy. He said he was going to erase his match profile because of me. Hmmm. I am not going to think about it. I just don't know if I should wear heels or not...I can't forget he's hardly 2 inches taller than me.
Well we agreed on dinner this Friday. The kids will both be gone, so I need to take advantage of that. I am about to go on my first date!
Well we agreed on dinner this Friday. The kids will both be gone, so I need to take advantage of that. I am about to go on my first date!
And then there were two.
So last night I stayed up way later than usual to go through all these emails I am getting. It's very overwhelming and time consuming. I have to arrange my schedule to fit time in just for searching through all my match.com emails, this is just crazy.
So, last night I got an email back from guy #1 with the two kids, a boy and a girl. Upon receiving more pics from him I have decided that he is a bonafied hottie. H is very successful and he works out of one of the offices on the top floor at the Scottsdale Quarter. I love that place! And, like me, he has two kids from two different people. Not something I look for in a guy but I can't judge because that would make me a hypocrite, and not very open-minded. So... not too bad but there HAS TO BE a reason he is on here and why his past two marriages didn't work out. I'm not going to buy "they were crazy" either. We all are.
But then I got "winked" at
So, this morning I totally skipped my morning work out again because of my intense surplus of emails . It is keeping me up late and this morning I skipped working out to tackle some more messages. I think I have over 200 in my inbox. Now I am just looking at their profile pic. At this point I don't have enough time to read what they have to say. In the morning I have to have kids ready, lunch packed, and out the door by 6am. It's probably just a dumb pick-up line anyway..
While I was straightening my hair, I scrolled through my updates and I saw a "wink" from some dude and winked back. Winking is probably the cheesiest thing I've done in a long time but whatever, I'm going all in and playing the game.
Well he emailed me no more than 2 hours later.. (making him Guy #2)
He has a dorky name, but right now he is just Guy #2, and he has tattoos (sleeves actually). That is NOT my type, but remember.. I am keeping a wide open mind for this experience! The cool thing is that he owns an antique shop! That's super interesting. Plus he said his tattoos are of Jesus. That's kinda cool even though I think it says in the Bible NOT to tattoo yourself. Again.. open mind over here. And he fit my request for a daddy, as he has an 11 year old. He is older, 39 and only 5'11." Usually the height would cause an immediate rejection, but I am not going to say again that I am clearing my mind of all prejudgments and all pretexts.
His email to me was really, really sweet. Almost too sweet. We just exchanged numbers and he has already text me two times in a row. Hmmm kinda clingy but kinda cute.
So, last night I got an email back from guy #1 with the two kids, a boy and a girl. Upon receiving more pics from him I have decided that he is a bonafied hottie. H is very successful and he works out of one of the offices on the top floor at the Scottsdale Quarter. I love that place! And, like me, he has two kids from two different people. Not something I look for in a guy but I can't judge because that would make me a hypocrite, and not very open-minded. So... not too bad but there HAS TO BE a reason he is on here and why his past two marriages didn't work out. I'm not going to buy "they were crazy" either. We all are.
But then I got "winked" at
So, this morning I totally skipped my morning work out again because of my intense surplus of emails . It is keeping me up late and this morning I skipped working out to tackle some more messages. I think I have over 200 in my inbox. Now I am just looking at their profile pic. At this point I don't have enough time to read what they have to say. In the morning I have to have kids ready, lunch packed, and out the door by 6am. It's probably just a dumb pick-up line anyway..
While I was straightening my hair, I scrolled through my updates and I saw a "wink" from some dude and winked back. Winking is probably the cheesiest thing I've done in a long time but whatever, I'm going all in and playing the game.
Well he emailed me no more than 2 hours later.. (making him Guy #2)
He has a dorky name, but right now he is just Guy #2, and he has tattoos (sleeves actually). That is NOT my type, but remember.. I am keeping a wide open mind for this experience! The cool thing is that he owns an antique shop! That's super interesting. Plus he said his tattoos are of Jesus. That's kinda cool even though I think it says in the Bible NOT to tattoo yourself. Again.. open mind over here. And he fit my request for a daddy, as he has an 11 year old. He is older, 39 and only 5'11." Usually the height would cause an immediate rejection, but I am not going to say again that I am clearing my mind of all prejudgments and all pretexts.
His email to me was really, really sweet. Almost too sweet. We just exchanged numbers and he has already text me two times in a row. Hmmm kinda clingy but kinda cute.
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